The Stories We’ve Been Told

  • You can always count on something magical to make everything better.
  • Everything is better when you are sought after, pursued, and ultimately chosen by a prince.
  • Yes, you feel forgotten and misunderstood and unseen now, but that will all change when a prince recognizes you for who you truly are.
  • Though you might feel as though you’re sitting by the cinders, put upon and all alone, it’s just a matter of time before your fate completely turns around.
  • When you are beautiful, everything changes.
  • Happily Ever After is a thing.
  • Look outside yourself for answers, for solutions, for the life you long for.
  • Being chosen by a prince (translate: man) is the penultimate goal and what gives your life meaning and value.
  • Just keep hoping and wishing for things to get better (and sing In My Own Little Corner along the way). Buy the makeup, the clothes, play the part: you’ll be noticed and valued and loved.
  • When you are beautiful, everything changes (yes, the same, and…wow, does this one embed!)
  • There is a “someday” that will solve your every problem, heal your every hurt, and make you whole.
  • I don’t trust my own wisdom.
  • I see the institution of marriage (and the man) as the goal, the aspiration, the answer; he determines my value and worth, my lovability, even my beauty.
  • When things don’t change, I’m increasingly convinced that’s because I’m not pretty enough, thin enough, beautiful enough, perfect enough.
  • Because, after all, if I were beautiful, everything would change!
  • I’m often chasing promises of Happily Ever After through relationships, jobs, earning more money, taking courses and programs, shopping, you name it. I can’t settle into and be satisfied with what is and who I am.
  • You can always count on something magical to make everything better. (Drop deeper…)
  • Look outside yourself for answers, for solutions, for the life you long for. (Drop deeper still…)
  • I don’t trust my own wisdom. (Ahhhh, there it is.)
  • What might have been different had I trusted my own wisdom in _____ situation?
  • What did I know, but didn’t feel like I could act on? What ultimately happened?
  • Where, even recently, have I heard my own wisdom but not acted on it? Why?
  • Do I, somewhere within, believe that an answer (or fairy godmother) is yet to arrive on the scene? What would that look like if that was the case? How likely is that?
  • What wisdom would a fairy godmother give me? What if I recognized that this has always been MY wisdom? What if I trusted myself as much as I’d trust her?
  • Where do I know-that-I-know-that-I-know AND still feel hesitant to speak, step forward, rise up?
  • What if I chose to tell — and live — a different story this time?

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Ronna Detrick

Ronna Detrick

I work and write on behalf of women and their re-visioned stories — past, present, and future. Stories told and lived on our own terms. As it should be!